I got the sweetest little book from my work the other day. It is an etiquette book based on the wisdom of the Winnie the Pooh characters. At first I thought it was a children’s book, but upon flipping through the pages I realized that it is actually full of some very valuable advice. A few quotes struck a particular chord in my heart, and really resonated with me. Whether for humorous or serious reasons, I think there are some very valuable messages. Below is a couple of my favourite passages.
Darkness enveloped her body. Seeking sweet reprieve, she gazed into the sky to find the glow of the stars. Yet, her tears did not shine as they fell to the ground. Silent and invisible they ran down her face. For she had given away the moon, and would forever mourn its light.
“What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise” – Oscar Wilde
I recently took a blow to my ego when I didn’t get into the grad program I applied for. At first, I was really crushed. I spoke with some friends who all supported me through the situation, but I realized that I needed to make a mentality switch. When things don’t go the way we plan, I think we lean on the assumption that something better is waiting for us. While I hope this is true, I know I need to be proactively changing my situation to ensure a better future awaits. If we wait for things to come to us, they may not be that what we wish for. I cannot accept defeat, I need to challenge myself to be better. Ego is such a strong part of our psyche, probably the most fragile part of our minds. I need to accept my failure, and separate my failure from myself. When we connect our failures to our own self worth, we lose sight of what really happened. I wasn’t the candidate they wanted, it wasn’t my personality, or my intelligence, I just didn’t fit the mold. Somewhere out there is my mold, I just need to find it and slip in.
“The envious die not once, but as oft as the envied win applause.” Baltasar Gracián
Please, be more annoyingly true. Envy is a slippery slope. For every success that the people you envy garners, you feel jealousy’s grip tighter around you. You might wanna tug at it choking on your neck, but you’re too lost in the sway of another persons life. I need to break the cycle of this emotion.